How to be a better MOM?

The answer is pretty clear to me...go back to work :) You used to love taking care of kids right? Do what you have to do to open a home daycare, or even start nannying in someone else's home during the day, but only if they let you bring your daughter. You will probably feel re-energized and purposeful like you used to, your daughter will reap the benefits of your skills while learning to play well with other children. If it wasn't broken, why'd you fix it?