Normal not to like your own mother?

I think the word hate is to strong, but I can't help but have really negative feelings towards my mother. As much as time passes, these feelings do not diminish. My father died when I was really young, and you think her first priority would be looking after her kids, which wasn't her biggest concern. She was dating within six months, and remarried within two years. She once hit me with a metal spoon across my foot, also threw a plastic bat and hit me in front of dozens of people. She has called me a F-ing loser, accused me of molesting the neighbors child (baseless) hit me in the face, causing a bloody nose, because I pointed out the obvious fact that she wasn't happy with herself. Money was left for my brother and myself, and she used it for her own piggy bank. She actually started working less hours, even when she stopped getting money from my dads pension, and hardly ever went food shopping. I am a grown man, but still affected. She was always smug to me, making condescending comments, and when I wanted to better myself and leave a miserable, dead end job, despite money being left for me, she went above and beyond to stand in my way, and only played the part of caring, because she felt she had to. I know she is riddled with guilt, and over the past few years, tried to repair the damage by making comments which contradict her actions. I have approached her, and she gets defensive saying that why is my brother ok, and tries to get sympathy about her upbringing. Well, when she says my brother is ok, she means that he has a career that he is MISERAbLE, he is bitter, negative, divorced, bankrupt, and a foreclosure. Ummm, not sure how that is ok. Again, I don't hate her, just really disappointed because I gave had to work so hard, and learn things on my own, and be defiant of what my family tried to instill in me. When people praise me for being so wise, I am engulfed with anger, because my family had nothing to do with it.