Why is my husband so defiant?

My husband seemed like the perfect man. I never suspected him of any wrong doing. I always thought he was honest and faithful. And I thought he loved me a lot. I found out about him having cheated on me at least 6 or 7 times about 6 months ago it all came to light. I have tried to be forgiving. However......ever since I found out and got upset and angry and mad at him he turns around and is mad at me. He acts like I was the one who did wrong. He acts like he HATES me now. Like really despises me. He is also defiant. I tell him I don't want him going out by himself anymore and we should find a way to go out together because I want to go out every now and then and party myself...but with him. The more I say we should do things together he gets mad and says "All the guys go drinking and go to strip clubs after work so I am going to start going from now on." Um I think he has been doing whatever behind my back to begin with and now he seems so desparate to do this stuff. He wants to go out with his friends and I asked him what that meant. To him it means going to a club or bar and talking to chicks, dancing with chicks, and getting some numbers. I told him no I don't think that is appropriate for you because you are married. DUH! And he gets madder. So since that fight he hasn't said I love you once for a whole week now. He hasn't hugged or kissed me. Also our sex life sucks. The more I want to have sex he tells me I have to earn it. I want to know exaclty how one earns sex. You'd think that after all that cheating he would be grateful I am willing to have sex with him ever again. His angry and seeming hate towards me really hurts because I can't think of what I have ever done to deserve it besides being a trusting, foolish, stupid, loving wife.

Is it possible for a 5 year old boy to be depressed?

Yes, I think children can be affected by a chemical imbalance the same as adults can - maybe you should get him evaluated for depression, meanwhile, continue to do what your dad suggested, elicit the "yes" response, and when he complies, praise him and encourage him, and tell him what a fine young man he is!

Hockey questions and something I really need help with, details inside...?

i'm so sorry that you're having to go through all of this. i can't even imagine how hard it must be for you. that being said, i can't even begin to offer half as good of advice as the others offered. instead, i just wanted to reach out to you because i know a lot of time in tough situations, you can never have enough people to talk to. if you ever need to talk to someone about it or if you just need to vent or whatever, please feel free to send me a message. i'm all ears, i don't judge, and i can keep a secret. hang in there and i know it doesn't mean much coming from a stranger, but i'm so proud of you for staying strong.

Do Americans really want to spend that much on illegal plants?

Do Americans really want to spend hundreds of thousands of dollars on prosecuting someone who smoked two dollars worth of weed, or is that just a bizarre stereotype?

What is a Conditional discharge?

The said person was told by the lawyer that the prosecuting attorney has reached an agreement that they will give the said person a criminal discharge since they have never been in trouble before. And that the said person will not have a criminal record as long as the said person pleads guilty. What actually is a conditional discharge and what can come out if it.

B&A: What do you think of this basic plot idea?

Honestly, there's not enough to it. It seems a little cliched- but everything is cliched a little now it seems like. I think if you added some good twists and a few sub-plots this has a lot of potential. I don't think it would suck, or be bad, but it might come out a little dull. It all depends. It could be really good once you think about it more and add your own style and twists to it. You should go for it anyway because as long as you like it, then someone else will too. Good luck!

What are some behavior problems that are typical of 3-year-olds? My little one is having new issues!?

Since my daughter turned three she has been acting a little bit more defiant ad rude (especially to Mommy). Is this a normal change for this age? It's driving me nuts, because all of a sudden she is testing me constantly and raising her voice to me. Terrible Two's had some issues but now it's different--more defiant and oppositional. Please share.